Feeling Discouraged / Angie (Mom)
"I thought I'd be done with this grieving by now.It takes so much work, and it's painful. It's so discouraging when those dark days come. Why can't I just be happy again?"
After months of grieving, with all its ups and downs, we may find ourselves feeling discourgaed at times. Experiencing the anguish and sorrow over and over again may have become tiring. It's natural to want to "be done," to move on and feel healed. We may wonder if we have been doing something wrong, or if there is something wrong with us. Yet, grieving cannot be so easily controlled. It is bigger than us, and a much longer process than we might think.
The storm of grief following death does last a long time. We may hope for calm and peaceful seas, yet in our hearts we know that a windy day or a raging storm may be around any corner. Our love for this special person means that we are forever bound to them. As time goes on we may have many more calm days than stormy, but we need to be aware that storms and windy days are a part of the natural cycle of life, not to be avoided but to be weathered.
"I can accept that my world has changed since my Gene died. I have changed, too. I can take pride in seeing that I have survived."
I love you and miss you so much my son. "Forever in my Heart"
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